Tinder: Changing the Game
Technology has changed almost every aspects of life in the contemporary society. However, one of the most dramatic changes in life includes the social life and especially dating. Prior to the introduction and incorporation of technology into dating, which generally happened when two people met in person and then decide to go out, technology has changed virtually everything as far as dating is concerned. Notably, Match.com created the first concept of meeting online and learning about each other before actually meeting in real life. As technology further increased, this led to Tinder, the application that changed the “game”. Game in this context refers to dating. Tinder is an application for mobile devices, which uses location service to find people around their vicinity to meet up with or talk to without having to meet in person. This application is generally used by people under the age of forty and is mainly known to many as a “hook up” application. This essay, explicates how Tinder has changed dating by allowing people to meet up after a series of conversations allowing both parties to like each other through swipes on their phones and thereby said to have changed the whole game of dating.
Quite a long time ago, men needed to actually go to different homes and present a card. However, in 1950s, telephones became part and parcel of the American culture, and individuals attended more customary dates. Matchmaking services in the following decade turned into an online dating model. In the dawn of 1990, the initial dating sites was initiated (Burzumato 2007). Today, a huge number of individuals use cell phones to begin or end relationships. Messaging, sexting, and online networking applications such as Snapchat are all pieces of the blend. This simply means that a large portion of mankind will maintain this trend and utilize this kind of technology in the following 10 years.
Technology has simply changed dating in such a way that it has become easier to find a person to hang out with than it has ever been before. All that is required of a person is to go on his or her phone and swipe right, match with someone, and then meet up on an agreed upon date. Consequently, technology has simply changed love all together. In today’s society, everyone’s relationship status can almost be defined as “it is complicated.” This is all due to the advancement in technology and a different way to meet more matches (Howard 2015). Prior to the technology one would have to visit a common social place such as a bar, club, music event, etc. in a bid to meet people that they can match and start dating. However, in today’s society, people can just be sitting on a toilet and just swiping right to find their matches and then meeting up as soon as possible. A passage from Vanity Fair explicates that, individuals see everything especially dating as a race. Most conversations among men often involve such phrases as “Who has slept with the best, hottest girls?” making people who use this dating applications and sites appear as if they are always involved in some kind of a prowl (Sales 2015).
Unlike in the olden days, people nowadays can easily talk to two or more women at a bar and end up picking the best as they desire. Besides, finding a partner is as easy as swiping on one’s handset and setting up two or more Tinder dates within a couple of hours. Distinct from before, it seems more common and easier for people to get together today than it was some years prior. The reason behind this is the growing availability and accessibility of people (Rush 2014). Individuals, especially men, typically, view Tinder as the new and proficient way of dating. As such, they prefer not to be tied down and instead of spending too much money on women, they find it easier and cost effective to text them off of dating applications and sites. Consequently, this idea has changed the dating game completely.
Prior to the introduction of this kind of technology involving online dating, people needed to learn how to communicate in person before establishing a lasting relationship. However, the skill of this art could be and may have been lost due to the speed with which people are connection through texting. This has also lead to the development of another skill involving the art of texting. The people in this millennium must learn this art in order to keep up with this development (Robbins 2015). The art of texting is something new and recent especially involving convincing someone to accept a date with someone that he or she has never met before. Therefore, without the “texting game,” an individual may not be able to secure a date in reality. Notably, dating has become more complicated because nowadays, a person needs to be able to communicate through texting as well as have skills to communicate in person (Bartz 2015).
According to The New York Times article, the old-fashioned way of courtship, which required one person to pick up the telephone and ask someone on a date needed bravery and tactical planning as well as a sizable stock of self-worth. This is however not true in the contemporary world that involves texting, sending e-mails, Twitter and other practices of un-contemporaneous communication (Williams 2013). Unlike the traditional courtship, the need for charm is removed in the context of dating, since dating has become more like dropping a line in the water with the expectations of forming a morsel. This simply explains the fact that there has been a significant change in the way of communication as far as dating today is concerned in comparison with the earlier days. Therefore, art of traditional love may be lost in this generation, and this is due to Tinder among other applications and their influence on dating.
A graph of percentage of people’s reaction towards online dating as a reliable means of meeting people shows quite interesting changes over the years. For instance, the percentage has increased from 44 percent to 59 percent between 2005 and 2013 (Dewey 2015). Indeed, the number of people relying on Tinder and other applications to create connections has tremendously increased over the years. This proves the fact that people continue to embrace technology in different spheres in such a way that they even regard dating through Tinder and other related applications as the primary means of finding prospective partners. However, these platforms are only causing serious behavioral changes among many users rather than enhancing them.
According to the Huffington post, in 2013, about 51 percent of surveyed people got married and this unveiled a record drop of 21 percent of people getting married from 1960 (Bartz 2015). As such, there certainly seems to be a trend in a manner that with high advancement in technology, there are growing numbers people who are single. There are a few people involved in serious commitments, which only mean that the society is certainly losing the old meaning of love. The big picture is far from the claims that the weak loves are falling apart and instead, Tinder and other matchmaking applications are not helping to find a better love. In fact, these new applications are only making real love much difficult to find, which is not necessarily a bad thing. The more experience one goes through in his or her life, the more they can find out what they truly want and need. This will ultimately help people discover what they truly want in a relationship.
The procedure of dating during this era has not only been gamified but also sexualized by technology (Chamorro-Premuzic 2014). It should be noted that, mobile dating is not just a means to an end but an end in itself. This is because, the alleged reason in online dating through Tinder and other dating applications is to hook up; however, the actual pleasure is developed from the act of texting in Tinder among its users. Additionally, romanticism no longer exists and this is far from being just a cynical statement. Notably, were it not have been for Valentine’s Day in addition to engagement industry, whose existence is continually threatened as days go by, the world would have been miles aloof and beyond romanticism (Chamorro-Premuzic 2014). The realities surrounding the world of dating could not be any dissimilar, as careers have deprived relationships of time to allow people to hook up and come up with meaningful conversations in person. As such, people prefer to use their electronic gadgets and communicate with whomever they want. Besides, the notion of an exclusive faultless match or partner is just but an arithmetic impracticality.
While a few individuals still grasp a sure level of fortune, the abundance of instruments as a matter of fact, which are mostly under development in a bid to lessen the colossal crevice between demand and supply is certainly going to make dating to become highly effective and lucid (Ramzy and Rogers 2015). That is, regardless of the fact that it may not construe to successful long-haul relationships, people will still find it efficient and reliable to solve their needs and demands.
In another perspective, some people may argue that Tinder has not changed the game, but rather humans are programmed to evolve this way. Nevertheless, nobody can ignore the impact that technology has had on dating (Burzumato 2007). From the invention of the telephone to email through texting and now applications that allows people to do all of this at the same time to convince someone to go out on a date. This makes dating easier in the sense of finding people to talk to but not necessarily connecting with the right person (Ramzy and Rogers 2015). However, in time, one may eventually find the most suitable person for them to be in a relationship with. Like any other successful social network, Tinder works in a way that empowers individuals to satisfy some fundamental developmental and social needs. This is an essential point to note that, while we tend to overestimate the effect of innovation on human behavior; usually, human behavior is responsible for driving technological dynamics and clarifies their accomplishment or letdowns. Much the same as Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn, Tinder empowers individuals to get along, though to some degree in a petulant, sexual, and insincere manner (Ramzy and Rogers 2015). It has also empowered people to excel, nurture their aggressive impulses by testing and boosting their dating potency. In addition, Tinder empowers its users to fulfill their intellectual inquisitiveness by figuring out about other individuals’ hobbies and character, as well as what they think about others.
In conclusion, dating in the contemporary world has taken a different way considering the effect of technology and more particularly the introduction of several dating applications including Tinder. People nowadays have completely changed their perspectives concerning relationships and sex. In other words, the meaning of love has been given a different definition, which is far from what our forefathers believed in. This paper has endeavored to explicate the fact that the dating game has changed due to the introduction of dating applications and sites such as Tinder. People continue to disguise themselves under the name of wanting to meet through Tinder and other social sites but their real pleasure comes not from the actual meeting but from the art of texting, which is often sexual oriented. Despite the ease of communication, which is imperative in today’s relationships, more relationships have been destroyed rather than created. Indeed, technology has changed the game of dating in numerous other ways as elucidated in this paper.
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